How To Be Honest With Yourself

Do you read something and never check it out to be true?

Do you deflect from the truth?

Do we sneak a lustful peak at the opposite or same sex?

Do we observe substitute porn (Internet sexual pictures)?

Botox? Wigs? Hair color? Silicon?

Do we engage in evil thoughts deliberately?

Do you deliberately withhold key information that would damage your “reputation?”

Do you intentionally add things to bolster who you are to impress others?

Some of us need more make up to mask the flaws.

The Lord desires for truth to be in the heart and He desires to make wisdom to be known in the hidden part.

But also the Lord desires for us to be brutally honest with ourselves. To be brutally honest with ourselves demands us to be candid and exposed.

It’s when we know that we need make up and we bypass the cover up.

We refuse to be a cover girl.

Covering our flaws so that the only thing that people see is the real you.

We paint our faces and we suck in the gut to give a false appearance.

We refuse to wear falsies or spandex like girdles. Wearing falsies gives a false impression to others while you and God knows the reality.

The mirror never lies. Whatever is in front of it, the mirror tells the truth. It’s only showing you what you see.

James 1:21-25


Therefore lay aside all filthiness and overflow of wickedness, and receive with meekness the implanted word, which is able to save your souls.

But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves. For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man observing his natural face in a mirror;

for he observes himself, goes away, and immediately forgets what kind of man he was.

But he who looks into the perfect law of liberty and continues in it, and is not a forgetful hearer but a doer of the work, this one will be blessed in what he does.”

The heart is laid bare before God to the point of excruciating embarrassment should God expose us.

Hebrews 4:12-13

For the word of God is living and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the division of soul and spirit, and of joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.

And there is no creature hidden from His sight, but all things are naked and open to the eyes of Him to whom we must give account.”

Like that family with 19 kids. One of them was found guilty of child porn. A seemingly Christian family. It’s not a reflection per se on the parents unless something is further exposed, but the secrets of men are laid bare to bring men and women to repentance and faith towards God. He was married but had child porn downloaded on his work computer, and he’s alleged to have sexually assaulted his siblings. A married man.

Now what we do this in the secret place is when no one around but you and the Lord.

Just me and the Lord in the secret place and we take the secret place with us when we’re before people.

Here’s another thing. We like to hide behind swelling words that fall from our tongue to impress people.

Like when people say that they’re not afraid of death. But everyone of us, when we see a dead body in the box, we all know that one day, it will be our turn.

Matthew 5:37 (NKJV)

“But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.”

When we’re not honest with ourselves, it’s because we don’t want to look bad in front of people.

Like when we go to a church service. We pretend that we’re something when we know we’re nothing.

Galatians 6:3-5 (NKJV)

“For if anyone thinks himself to be something, when he is nothing, he deceives himself. But let each one examine his own work, and then he will have rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another. For each one shall bear his own load.”

Remember when the believers gave money after selling their property and gave the entire proceeds to certain believers that had need? Remember when Ananias and Sapphira decided to lie to the Holy Spirit about giving the entire proceeds but they’ve kept half?

They wanted to appear as good as everyone else that gave all of their proceeds, while keeping half of their proceeds for themselves.

It was their property and all they could have said was, ‘We want to give you half.’

No one would have made them give more than they’ve decided.

2 Corinthians 8:12 (NKJV)

“For if there is first a willing mind, it is accepted according to what one has, and not according to what he does not have.”

The couple had the money and they could have done anything they’ve decided to do, but because they wanted to shine like the other believers, they’ve made a deliberate decision to lie about what they were giving.

All they had to do is be honest with themselves.

For lying to the Holy Spirit, Peter was sent to expose their sin of covetousness, pride, and lying and on the spot, they were judged, and lost their lives. They died and were buried on the same day.

David wasn’t honest with himself.

He wanted with lust to sexually have Bathsheba.

She’s a married woman. Married to one of his trusted military leaders. But the lust in his heart was so strong, even when he had 5 wives, he committed adultery.

When Bathsheba was pregnant, he called for Uriah to come home, all in hopes that Uriah would have sex with his wife to cover David’s transgression.

Uriah didn’t go inside his own home and slept outside the king’s door. So David decided to have Uriah placed in the hottest place of battle to kill him.

Word got back that the plan was successful.

Then Nathan told David a little story to reveal the secret in David’s heart.

From the start, David wasn’t honest with himself. It took the prophet of the Lord to move David that had a sinful dishonest heart. Psalm 51 would be the Psalm that would be birthed out of David that revealed his adulterous, murderous heart.

He was spared the death penalty, for God had mercy on him, but the rest of David’s life was a complete collapse. His only mark would be the killing of Goliath and the material that he laid up for his son, Solomon, to build the first tabernacle.

When we’re not honest with ourselves, the Lord will send things into our lives to reveal our hearts. And it’s up to us to accept or reject it.

Finally, king Asa in 2 Chronicles made critical reforms in the land. The Lord sent the Ethiopians and the Lubims towards Judah. 1.5 million against Israel’s half a million. Asa sought the Lord and the Lord gave Asa a tremendous victory.

Later on, the Lord sent another test.

Asa trusted in Syria instead of trusting in the Lord. Asa’s heart was revealed after the prophet told him of his error. Asa was so mad that instead of repenting, he chose to remain in pride. Asa sought the doctors to heal him of his disease in his feet, and he died.

The deliverances that God gave him came from God and not Asa.

Asa wasn’t honest in his heart about who was responsible for Judah’s deliverance.

When we’re brutally honest with ourselves, it’s never to impress people in self righteousness. It’s false humility. We’re to be brutally honest in the secret place of the Most High.

Yes, the Scriptures tell us to confess our faults to one another. Yes, we’re to repent when we’ve offended others, and the other party is to quickly forgive.

But when it comes to being honest with ourselves, it takes a willingness to do so, even to our own hurt, and at great cost to our reputation.

Published by The Minister's Crucible

The Minister's Crucible is designed to inform the Body of Christ about the inner workings of the ministry. The word Crucible from Latin, is "crux" where we get the word "cross" from. It also means a "metal container" where metals and other substances are melted or are subjected to higher temperatures, put to the temperature test. The Lord Jesus said "If any man desires to follow after Me, let him deny himself, take up his cross, and follow Me." Let's take up our cross and follow Him.

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